Maarika wrote:

I got 45. I win

Oh you're soooo mature

51.  Having to take care of my mom emotionally all the time at an early age I think has helped me develop a sensitivity to how other people are feeling and recognizing what I'm going through and why.

Wow.  They gave me a 42, which shows that this test is waaaaay off.  Above average, indeed.

Tamago wrote:

Maarika wrote:

I got 45. I win

Oh you're soooo mature

I was actually thinking of editing my post the second after I had submitted it to add a comment similiar to yours, but then laziness happened.
Sometimes I just can't resist.

I got a 37. Which I guess would be some kind of average score? (:

I doubt most of these evaluation tests, especially those with so few questions. But at least they don't take long to fill out and most importantly, they're fun. n_n As for any of my own insight, I think I lost major points on being unable to control my own emotions, but scored quite a few when it comes to understanding other people's feelings.

I got a 35...

that's average?

The average so far is 43.1! I saw Arki's post and the nerd in me had to do the calculation.

Meh.  42.

i have 53.

you know, it doesn't  mean anything for me- I could think that I'm calm and I see people's moods, but in fact be egocentric and blind for theirs behaviour. it depends from honesty.

43

The last thing I am is a martyr.

satyreyes wrote:

39 here, but I didn't understand most of the questions, so I don't know how accurate that is.  "I stay relaxed and composed under pressure" -- what sort of pressure?  "I stay focused in getting a job done" -- what sort of job?  "You can change even your basic leadership ability considerably" -- what do you mean by leadership?  Would I know these things if I had a high EQ?

I got a 37 and felt the same way.

Then I took the other one and got 50%, which is below average. Okay, so not especially good at the emotions. The first test used a lot of questions that were so generalized you could hardly answer. The second asked nothing but socially oriented questions, which is better, but also suffers if you overcalculate your answers. Only one question had 'it would depend on the friend', where that would have been my answer to all of them. How you approach a new managerial position should vary depending on the group you're overlooking.

Then again, what's the EQ for a person that knows the 'right' answer but tends not to do it anyway?

Well actually, can you say a psychopath that knows the right answer has a low EQ? They fail on the applied EQ, but they'll ace any test you throw at them. And just like IQ, it's a whole different ballgame, testing something and measuring its worth applied. IQ tests, especially given to the young, are full of 'make this shape out of these pieces'. Given this narrow challenge, a lot of people score highly on accomplishing this task that wouldn't score the same if the task was adjusted to real life because they'd first need to identify a whole other range of factors before that task was clear. Person A and person B score the same IQ based on how they arrange the blocks to fit the shape on the card. They both grow up to be engineers. Person B, however, is far better at not only fitting the blocks to the shape needed, but accounting for doing it in the least time, with the least money, and in the most efficient pattern. They have the same IQ, but one's clearly more intelligent than the other where it's applied.

EQ I think suffers the same problem, but magnified. Half of what would be someone's high EQ is decided by their ability to see multiple angles of a situation and judge from there what the best course of action is. If you have a disagreement with someone at work, the answer is often to speak quietly to them about it. That's the right answer on the test. But what if that person has a history of poor conduct and not changing when approached that way? What if you're up for a promotion that would get you away from this person and the wisest course of action would be to shut the fuck up for a while? What if you're under strict instructions from your boss to notify them of any improper behavior on that employees part, because the employee is on thin ice with the company for other, far worse reasons?

As for the more personal EQ stuff, again, the right answer on the test is always the foo-foo 'do some yoga' answer. The tests fail to account for human emotional frailty, and that, at least IMO, a person with a high EQ would understand where their own breaking point is, and whether they've gotten past what a yoga class can do to help them. You've just had a traumatic breakup and the test asks how you cope. There's a foo-foo answer about 'realize it was for the best and move on'. There's 'spend all night crying into a pillow', and it's the wrong answer. The test doesn't account for that one should follow the other, and that sometimes, you need to cry a little. Or a lot.