I have an absurdly short temper for people dismissing kids. And, I mean absurdly.

Maybe I was dismissed as a kid, or something, because that shit pisses me off.

crystalwren wrote:

I loathe being alone on New Year's Eve. I don't like being alone on Christmas Day or my birthday, but I can live with it if circumstances dictate. But New Year's Eve by myself? Nope. Hate. Hate. Hate. And I can't even tell you why this is so.

I get around this by thinking of the vernal equinox as the actual New Year.

I don't like "finishing" creative work.

I want to leave something I know I could do or fix unaccomplished and hanging forever. It even bugs me if an editor or someone else fixes it after it's out of my hands.

Buying necessary things, like credit for my cell phone. It's pisses me off for some reason.

malna wrote:

Recently I've come to realize something that's been bothering me literally since early childhood, only I never had given it a name before. In our culture, everything needs to be talked over. In close relationships, keeping secrets is often seen as near betrayal, even if these secrets have nothing to do with the person 'betrayed'. Communication is practically sanctified. I am a very different kind of creature myself; I like to shape things with what I choose to disclose and leave unsaid - it really is a neat tool. I often act unbeknownst to others. If I care about them, what I do will always be beneficial to them. I trust deeply and expect no less in return. I don't expect my loved ones to report to me. The point is, I just don't believe anybody has a right to know what's in the confines of my head. Oftentimes people seem genuinely convinced that one's thoughts, opinions, plans belong to them.
Likewise, people who talk a lot, especially about private things (but also, about extremely irrelevant stuff) set my teeth on edge.

Agreed!

I completely agree that music in public places is less than pleasant. Elevator music is perhaps even worse and truly pointless. Does one really need to listen to a snippet of music while riding the elevator?

I too tend to check my reflection in the mirror but it's more to see if I've gained any muscle definition since the last run.

I'm way over-sensitive to the suggestion female characters are just there, or should only be there, for straight guys to fap to. Be it from the world's dumbest Sakura Wars review to people talking on facebook about a biographical comic, "I can't fap to it, why should I care?" or "Women are stinking up my entertainment, I don't fap to women, why do they have to be there?" misogyny just bugs the crap out of me.

Flah wrote:

If you want to wank to something, there's this thing called porn which is more easily accessible now than it ever has been in all of history.

To play Devil's Advocate (ahahahahahaha, get it*) I think there should be figures in regular media that are sexually appealing...maybe even designed primarily with that in mind. The normalization of sex and keeping it open and not marginalized as some big dirty secret is important to me, which means that I do think 'wank material' shouldn't be relegated to the background in pornography where it's the only point to the exercise. It implies that sexuality and interest only exist in the narrow context of the act of sex, with everything around it simply the 'I'm the repair man, I'm here to fix your pipes' pretext.

I'm not saying they should only exist for that reason, but I don't think there's anything wrong with designing a character with sex in mind--only in designing them to pander to that at the expense of any other characterization. Utena does this beautifully--Touga is designed, and even written, as a stereotypical sex appeal insert into a shoujo anime. Bayonetta is designed to be a stereotypical, even exaggerated sex symbol. And yet both are used to subvert their own tropes and develop surprisingly dynamic characters.

For me, I can't get turned on by porn or even erotica unless there's an interesting character or context, and that's not something aimed for there. I would have to, arguably, become more sexist to get anything out of porn--now my interest will rely on an attractive body or huge penis, when before it was more nuanced, and actually about neither.

I do totally understand you and DD though. I guess I just feel the way to fix it isn't not to do it, but to do it and point out how bullshit it is. Kind of like how race is often a subject in standup comedy-putting it in your face and showing you how absurd it is I think does more than avoiding it. But that's just me.

*Maybe not, if you don't know me.

Mmm hmm, yeah, Gio, I don't think DD or Flah was complaining about sexualized characters in media.  That's a whole different discussion.   The complaint is that some people watch a TV show and are like "there were girls and they didn't take off their clothes, 0/5, would not watch again."  Mind you, I think it's very possible that the media have conditioned us -- or at least some of us -- to evaluate female characters that way no matter what the context is.   Still, I would like to think that we can expect adults to be a little more self-aware than that.

Thought of one. I absolutely hate listening to people talk about losing weight and going to the gym. Since I'm a nurse, I hear this for hours on end, and instead of it riling me up or encouraging me, it just makes me feel defensive and like YA WELL FUCK YOU. I find my own weight issues to be very personal so it's almost like overhearing TMI relationship crap when I hear it. But I know I'm being ridiculous so I can't say anything.

I do actually legitimately get annoyed when I'm standing there and some 100 pound nurse complains about how fat she is. I know they're entitled to say whatever they like but it seems like a social awareness thing. I don't complain about being ugly when I'm standing next to someone whose face got beat in with the ugly stick. It's just insensitive. Especially when I suspect it's actually more of a humble-brag than a real worry for them.

satyreyes wrote:

Mmm hmm, yeah, Gio, I don't think DD or Flah was complaining about sexualized characters in media.

I see that now! Sorry guys! I've been just short of brain dead the last couple weeks, reading comprehension not so much a thing.

satyreyes wrote:

"there were girls and they didn't take off their clothes, 0/5, would not watch again."

I think the mixup came for me in that while I'd never rate based on that and say something is an inferior product if it doesn't pander to my vagina, I have to admit if you ask me what I enjoy watching, I can't actually think of many things I enjoy that don't involve some shameless appeal to my horrible taste in men.* I guess you could say my Id thinks this way, and I do select for things that turn me on. But I have enough self-awareness to realize that's got nothing to do with the quality of a thing, so I wouldn't say "The suits were cheap and no one was an asshole, 0/5."

So I guess I got weirded out because I am, internally, probably pretty close to what's being criticized and I got all lame and defensive.

DD -- Holy shit do people really do that???? I'd said some weird shit to people and never had that card laid down. It sounds like some high school level defensiveness.

*Interstellar. Lord of the Rings. S'about it.

Giovanna wrote:

DD -- Holy shit do people really do that???? I'd said some weird shit to people and never had that card laid down. It sounds like some high school level defensiveness.

There was a whole thread on my facebook wall, of all places, involving a couple former IRG posters (but still totally IRG fam) when fb started letting your friends friends comment and see stuff, where other people's fb friends took issue with the idea anyone finds John Waters legitimately attractive.

Which, really, if that's where you draw the "it's impossible" line...

Someone did get to do an entire Green Eggs and Ham pastiche about jumping John Waters, though, so it had its up side.

Most commonly, though, it's just someone who can't fathom male bisexuality.

satyreyes wrote:

Or not read a biographical comic looking to get my rocks off.  Sheesh!

Actual example. Someone was complaining about just that with Oceanerosemarie's The Invisible Lesbian. Which is largely about how dumb and awkward she felt as a kid.

I got on so many high horses that day.

I have to hit pause when someone's about to be humiliated or embarrassed in a movie or show. I put books down for it.

I can watch hardcore sex in a room with friends and not blush, sit through splattery gore in a theater, but be it Utena or Teen Witch, if someone's going to be humiliated by someone reading their love letter, I just die a little right then.